What’s Your Attachment Style? Free Quiz for Women

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Discover Your Attachment Style in Dating

This quiz is designed to help you reflect on how you show up in romantic relationships and explore what your attachment style might be. There’s no “right” answer only greater self-awareness and insight.

1. When you start dating someone new, how do you usually feel?

A. Excited but I tend to get anxious and overthink everything.

B. I feel good but I like to keep some emotional distance.

C. I want connection but I also feel really uncomfortable or scared.

D. Generally calm and open. I enjoy getting to know them without feeling overwhelmed.

2. If someone doesn’t respond to your text right away, what’s your first thought?

A. I worry they’re upset with me or might be losing interest.

B. I don’t think much of it—people are busy.

C. I feel irritated or want to pull away first.

D. I spiral a little and then shut down emotionally.

3. How do you usually express your needs in relationships?

A. I try but I worry I’m being “too much.”

B. I tend to keep my needs to myself.

C. I don’t always know what I need or how to ask for it.

D. I feel comfortable stating what I need and hearing others’ needs too.

4. How do you typically react during conflict with a partner?

A. I feel panicked or desperate to resolve things right away.

B. I shut down and need space—maybe more than I should.

C. I bounce between lashing out and disappearing.

D. I can usually stay grounded and work through it calmly.

5. What’s your biggest fear in romantic relationships?

A. Being abandoned or rejected.

B. Losing my independence or being smothered.

C. Loving someone who hurts me or lets me down.

D. I fear getting hurt but I trust myself to handle it.

6. When a relationship ends, how do you usually cope?

A. It’s hard—I tend to feel like it was my fault.

B. I distract myself and move on quickly.

C. I feel overwhelmed and confused—maybe even ashamed.

D. I grieve but I also reflect and heal with time.

7. Which statement feels most true to you?

A. I give a lot in relationships sometimes more than I get.

B. I feel safer when I don’t rely too much on anyone.

C. I want love but I often feel unsafe or triggered by it.

D. I know love takes work and I’m learning how to do it better.

8. How do you handle emotional intimacy?

A. I crave it but I worry I’m too much.

B. I keep my guard up even when I care deeply.

C. I want closeness but it often scares me.

D. I’m open to it and feel relatively comfortable with vulnerability.

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